“Also, dudes who read Bonerparty, you are totally responsible for this as well. Own your sexism, guys.”— alicatiara Let’s go there, yes? Some boys (after this) have raised their hands at me and called themselves “guilty” but there’s no reason to feel guilt. Or not to enjoy looking at naked ladies. But here’s what it looks like from the lady POV on the outside: that to some boys, looking at ladies is okay if the ladies look “down” — that they wear knee socks and are photographed around books they may have read. Like wanting to cum on a girl’s face is okay if she listens to the right music, or has sharp enough breastbones. It might be that she looks fragile enough that you could break her. Hot enough to fuck but dull enough to discard. But you know guys it’s okay to cum on our faces no matter what’s on our iPhones, right? You don’t have to confine girls and sex to these twee little stereotypes of girls and sex. It’s as limiting as us expecting men to have gigantic porn dicks, to be available and erect and at our whim, and tell us how awesome our poems and hair are, too. Now where’s that blog?
first and foremost, i mean no offense.
but i will never understand the argument that looking at pictures of someone you find sexually attractive, or even publishing them, inherently degrades every person that does not have the same collection of traits. i just don’t understand how openly admitting you (and others) find a specific subsection of the female population attractive is so often interpreted as an attack on everyone else.
but i will say that, barring a few recent posts, i have very rarely seen the kind of direct vitriol towards women on boner party that i have seen in responses. i don’t really think referring to women, even if they only exist to you in pictures, as ‘hot enough to fuck but dull enough to discard’ or ‘fragile enough that you could break her’ is any kind of statement of moral high ground.
and this is my most common problem with the kind of ‘stand’ that’s being taken here. it’s not a stand against someone treating women like crap. it’s not a stand against the mistreatment or objectification of one person. it’s a stand against the idea that it’s not necessarily offensive to find hipster girls, or skinny girls, or girls who fit the definition of ‘cool’ that defines value in a certain scene, attractive. and if this is the crime (because it sure seems to have gotten beyond the admittedly idiotic comments about female-focused creative works) then i’m sorry, i’m another one of the guys who just isn’t getting it, and isn’t really seeing a crime.
we are, at core, discussing how repulsive it is for a group of men to be attracted to a specific type of women. this is where we tie back to the point where this whole tumblr-schism started: the comment was made (in relation to pixar of all things) that if you don’t like it, go and do it better, or in a more diverse manner, yourself. the comment entirely ignored the complexities of getting a large-scale artistic product made, the impossibility of doing it alone, and without having people with appropriate clout onboard. but i think the unexpressed idea at the center of it was almost valid - that a lack of diversity does not inherently indicate bias on behalf of those who are creating content.
i’m betting the guys at pixar, and the guys at bonerparty, are in the same boat - they serve the niche they serve, because it’s where what they know how to do, and what they can find an audience for, converges. that they focus on a specific thing doesn’t inherently demean every other thing.
the absences, i would guess, are unintentional.
