semi-justified flame bait.

i have never understood the assertion that looking at attractive women, or acknowledging that you find a woman or certain type of woman attractive, or even noting that an idealized, inaccurate depiction of a woman is attractive, is somehow offensive, or at least anti-feminist.

what really bothers me, is the overlap between the people who accuse me of causing anorexia by looking at the cover of maxim (yes, this actually happened) and those who happily insinuate that any female thinner than themselves is either suffering from an eating disorder, or is not a ‘real woman’.

if me noting that, say, january jones on the cover of GQ is attractive, results in you hating yourself, the problem isn’t january jones, or me, or GQ.  the problem is that you hate yourself.  and i seriously doubt that self-loathing emerged spontaneously the second you noticed that people thought the woman on the magazine cover was pretty.

blaming everyone else in the equation, on a society wide basis, is a popular response, but i doubt it has saved any lives.